Misogynoir At Its Finest: When will Black Women Get The Love They Deserve?

I am so sick and tired of the profound, unhinged, unprovoked treatment that black women continuously receive from society , it is unbelievably  painful to watch and even be part of it! Not only is this hatred seen within other races it is also seen amongst black women themselves projecting all sorts of trauma against one another forever leaving our “sisterly hood” community wounded. 

As some of you may be aware, A black woman, Sonya Massey, was shot in the head by Illinois police after she called to report a robbery. The irony in this alone is moronic, as I can't even put  logic into how a woman calls for help and is then murdered by the “help”. Nonetheless, this unfortunate murder happens, and it is as if the world mourns  the mistreatment of black women as if  this has not been an underlying issue for centuries. One can only imagine what the family of Sonya Massey is going through. Yet again another black woman has been literally cold-bloodedly killed, in her own home. Not to mention that your home is meant to be your shield, somewhere you can run to as a safe space to block out  troubles that the outside world may bring you. I think what irks me the most after watching the video is hearing the fear in her voice when she says she's sorry moments before she got shot. The emotions running through her must have been extremely high, I view this ,although one could argue as a bit extreme,  I believe this mirrors one of slavery, where a slave would get severely punished or even killed for the most minor acts. This really puts into question how much we have really changed.

In my opinion I feel like there needs to be an uprise in the black community, starting from a young age, and this is not only from black females but also black males. The other day I was with my friend and her younger sibling who was also with there friend, these girls where i year 8 going into year 9, and have started taking interest in boys and talking to them, anyways a phone call was made, where the boy asked one of the girls where she's from, he told her to guess and the boy said “you must be Ghanaian because you're so dark”, not only was this comment ignorant as there are plenty of other shades of Ghanaians but I also felt that the comment was also unnecessary… but that being said, the call ended with her continuously asking if she was too dark, and projecting that it was an issue. If I am being very frank, this broke my heart because not only is she so young, it's the fact that these early insecurities stem from a man's mouth. Correction a boys mouth,  I could do nothing but reassure her that her skin is beautiful and that she should let whatever anyone says, make her believe that it is not, but at that age, especially once you start to show an interest to the other sex, it's kind of impossible to convince one, otherwise. It's just shocking that jokes like this are still being made, when we have so many people nowadays pushing things like body positivity, skin positivity and talking about so many social injustices that don't get enough attention, however this draws parallels to the racial abuse that black women still get… 

Also this issue, arguably does not weigh the extremities of Sonya Masseys case, It still highlights the issue that the black community is so broken, it seems like we love to come to together when there's an issue,  but when we need to uplift one another, that always seems to be more difficult, the start of unity begins when we show love and respect for one other , whether it's in relationships, businesses or even celebrating an achievement, without jealousy. Sometimes I feel that black people need black

history month just as much as white people do.